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Alison Loman loves her life after Hollywood.
Le Mans, 43, opened around her Her decision to stop acting In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter Celebrating the 20th anniversary of her first big movie white oleander;
“I’ve always wanted to have kids and a family, and that’s always been a big deal for me,” Lohmann said in the interview published on Monday. “Somehow, if someone finds out that I was an actress before, in a weird way, that’s kind of a bummer because they don’t see me anymore. The bubble has burst and now I’m an actress. I just want to be me.”
I left acting in 2009 after the movie the player, Her now husband, Mark Nevelden, is co-director. After marriage, she and Nevelden stepped away from fame to quietly start a family. the two of They celebrated their thirteenth wedding anniversary In August, she has since welcomed three children.
Opening up about the height of her fame, Lohmann admitted, “Initially, it was good, you know, it was fun. But, as an actress, there’s a certain amount of anonymity I like to have. It’s hard to study people when they’re looking at you.”
She shared, “I don’t like attention in general,” but added that her publicist told her she needed to “accept” that as a famous actress.
In her last movie, the player, Le Mans remembered meeting Nevelden on set, and the hilarious reaction he got when she appeared.
“It’s funny because at first he didn’t like me and didn’t want me for this part. I had this dread at the time so he was thinking of another girl. So, when I walked in, he was like, ‘What’s that girl doing here?'” We don’t want this girl in a panic. This is not going to work.”
She added, “It’s so funny because that’s how I started. Even for me, I didn’t understand the concept of the script but looking back now, it was way ahead of its time. It was a great experience even though I met Mark.”
As for what made her and Nevelden leave acting and cinema, she said that was not the original plan. However, she was inspired by it after reading about a girl who owns a farm and loves gardens.
“I really started a little earlier because when I was working on it flickaWe traveled through Wyoming, and I had an idea that I didn’t want to live in L.A. anymore. I wanted to live in a place like this, in the countryside. Perhaps that is another reason why this movie made such a great impression.”
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She said the couple eventually bought a 200-acre ranch in upstate New York.
“It became another role for me, but it was so real. It was so much fun.”
Their lives changed even more after they became parents “and it was hard for me to get back into acting.”
“I was seeing all these other actresses being able to have kids and keep working but I realized that wasn’t for me,” she said. THR. “I miss her but I can’t do two things at once, in terms of harmonious motherhood and my career. I decided to be a mother and raise them and maybe go back to acting later.”
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Right now, she’s a virtual tutor via Skype, and she says “it’s really fun.”
“So I’m just waiting now to see how life unfolds without putting too much pressure on myself to control it or plan for it.” [what comes next]. “
Taking into account her years away from Hollywood, Loman said she is “seldom recognised.”
“The part I love about anonymity is when you meet someone and they don’t know who you are, they are so different towards you. That’s what you miss as a famous actor because people treat you so differently and it’s true. They don’t really go through what normal people go through because Extremely spoiled and unreal. And I have to be honest, I love him,” adding that she wanted to be treated like “everyone else.”
“It’s just real interactions and to be a good actor you have to be able to experience and benefit from these real moments.”